Week 18 – No Judgement: Learning to See Without the Filter
Last week’s habit hit me harder than I ever expected. Out of all the shifts I’ve made so far, changing my diet, adding movement and getting through cold showers, this one was the most powerful so far.
The “No Complaining Rule” sounded simple enough. I even told myself, “I don’t complain much.” But once I said it out loud and committed to it publicly, well, the universe heard me loud and clear. It was like life said, “Alright then, let’s see what you’re made of.”
By 11am on Monday, I was tested. And I mean really tested. Did I complain? Yep. Did I get shitty? Absolutely. But every time I caught myself slipping, I’d say out loud, “I’m not complaining.” And you know what? That simple statement pulled me out of the drama and into the solution. Instead of sitting in the mess, I moved. I acted. I fixed what I could, or I let go of what I couldn’t.
That small pause between reaction and response, that’s where the magic was. It shifted everything. It reminded me that when we complain, we give away our power. When we choose a better thought, we take it back.
This week cracked open so many blind spots I didn’t know I had. The subtle sighs. The sarcastic comments. The passive frustration. All those tiny complaints that chip away at my energy and affected everyone around me. Words matter. Tone matters. And energy? Energy is contagious.
And here’s the thing: I’ve been working too hard to raise my frequency, to build a better life, to let low-vibration habits sneak back in through the side door. so now my mantra is “I am not complaining, and how do I change this”. and now, no more judging.
Because as the week ended, when I caught myself saying, “I’m not complaining,” and a friend added, “I’m not judging either.” And that one hit me like a lightning bolt. We judge without even realising it, people, situations, ourselves.
We don’t know the miles others have walked. We don’t know their story, their triggers, their pain. We just see the surface and decide how we feel about it. But who are we to do that?
So I know I’ll be tested again. I already have been. But just like last week, I’ll catch myself. I’ll pause. I’ll choose differently. And maybe, just maybe, that little shift will open up a new way to communicate, to connect, and to lead.
What I’m learning through all of this is that awareness really is the key. Once you see the pattern, whether it’s complaining, judging, or reacting, you can’t unsee it. And that is confronting. But it’s also freeing. Because once you see it, you can change it.
These 17 weeks have cracked something open in me. I’m not just shifting habits, I’m shifting how I show up in the world. And with every habit I let go of, I feel lighter, more intentional, more aligned. I don’t need to control everything. I just need to own my part in how I move through the day.
And now, as I move into this next habit of no judging, I’m curious what else I’ll uncover. If not complaining could shift so much in just one week… I can only imagine what happens when I learn to truly see people without filters, assumptions, or stories.
Let’s see what this week teaches me, this experiment is just getting interesting!!!!
